eventhoughtrueloveishardtofindnowadays,westillcanseesometrueandinfatuatedboysandgirlswhoreadilygiveuptheirfamilies,theirparents,theirstudies,theircareersandeventheirlivesforlove.theylovesopassionately,crazilyandwildlythattheyhateanyonewhoisagainsttheirlove,andmayevenharmorkillhimifheinsistsonhisobjection.

　　lovehasmagicalpowerthatcanexploitpeoplespotentialabilities,bringpeoplespositivefactorsintofullplay,andprovidepeoplewiththecouragetofacetrialsandhardships,togothroughlifeanddeath,andeventoriskuniversalcondemnation.evenintheancientfeudalsociety,somepeoplewerecourageousenoughtocarryonclandestineloveaffairs.theexamplesinpointwerethecourageousoneswhodaredtolovetheconcubinesoftheemperorsorthechildrenoftheirfoes.lovealsohasmiraculouspowerwhichcanstartletheuniverseandmovethegodsbyattractingtheheavenlycelestialscomingdowntoearth(thelovestoryofthecowboyandtheweavinggirl),andbyturningghostsintohuman(strangetalesofliao-zhai).lovecantranscendageandgeneration(dr.sunyat-senandmadamsongqingling;luxunandxuguangping).lovecanshowcontemptforallconventionsandprejudices;lovecanhealwoundsandcurediseases,andlovecanreadjustpeoplesstateofmind.ofcourse,theresultwouldbetheoppositeonceithurts.

　　greatmenyearnfortrueloveevenmorethanordinarypeople.sincetheancienttimes,somanyheroescouldnthelpfallingintothetrapoflovethatthesex-traphasbeenregardedasoneofthe36stratagemsinmilitarytactics.fuchai,thekingofthewustate,couldntbesparedofthistrap,andgeneralsdongzhuoandlubufelldeeplyintoitwhilexiangyu,thekingofthewesternchustate,bidfarewelltohisbelovedconcubineintears.peoplemayhavetopayveryhighprice,eventheirillustriousnameforthelovetheylongforeventhoughitmaylastforonlyaveryshorttime.nonethelessnoonecantearhimselfawayfromlove.peopleoftensaythattheirearthlyaffinityisnotyetfinished,butinfactitistheloveaffinitythatisthemostdifficulttofinish.

　　loveisshapelessandpriceless.wecanblamenobodywhencapturedbyit.lovecannotbeforced,norcanitbepretended.sympathyisnotlove,neitherisgratitude.lovemustbegeneratedfromtheheart,andexpressedinactions.itcannotbecalledlovewithoutpassionsandadeeplongingfromthebottomoftheheart.theresnoimpassablegulfbetweenfamilyloveandfraternallove.somefamilylovemayturnintofriendship.atthesametime,naturalbarriersdoesntexisteitherbetweenfraternalloveandamatorylove.somefriendshipmaydevelopintoamatorylove.thesameistruewithamatorylovewhichmaychangeintofamilyloveafteralongtimeofmutualgrindingandpolishing.theclosertherelationship,andthehighertheexpectationsare,themoredifficultitistogetalongwitheachother.familylove,fraternalloveandamatorylovearethreemainhumanfeelings.ifhandledwell,theycanbringusextremehappiness,whilehandledimproperly,willbringusgreatsufferings.